I’m not the one to judge you if you happen to be having an affair right now. You comprehend the reasons behind what happened and how it happened, and you comprehend your relationship. However, if you decide to start an affair, whether you’re married or in a relationship, be aware of the risks of being discovered and the negative outcomes that occur if you start to feel the signs that the affair is developing into something more.
It’s possible that you started off seeking solace or running away from a difficult situation in your current relationship. You’re starting to wonder if this other person has actually experienced emotions. Sometimes it can be a novelty issue, but other times it might be because love is starting to show itself.
How will you know if your affair is developing into love?
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Let’s look at a few signs that an affair is developing into love. Then and only then can you decide what to do about it.
1 They often come to mind while you’re thinking about someone.
It doesn’t matter what the situation is when you start to fall in love with someone; you could find it difficult to stop thinking about them. When you think about them, you get butterflies. On this scenario, a guilty attitude is more likely to be adopted by the butterflies. That’s one of the most obvious signs that an affair is developing into love.
2 You look at the other person and your partner.
If you look at the two people in your life, you’re already in trouble. You and your partner will start to identify flaws if love is developing. Due to your idealization of the other person, this may cause you to become closer to them.
3 You try to extend your time with them.
At first, you probably just sometimes noticed the other person, but if you’re actively attempting to spend more time with them, you should consider why. Is it now that you’re starting to feel emotions? One of the major signs an affair is developing into love is wanting to be around the other person more, sometimes more than your partner.
4 You start putting genuine effort into how you seem.
You may have done this to some level in the past, but if you find yourself trying to look your very best before meeting the other person, it’s probably because you want to make a good impression. This could very well be a sign of a forthcoming romantic relationship.
5 You and your partner are no longer as close.
You may be starting to feel emotions for the other person if you find that you aren’t talking to your partner as much, aren’t being as physically affectionate, and there seems to be a big void between you. In this situation, pause, take a close look at what is happening, and decide whether or not it is necessary to put the breaks on things.
6 You start chatting with the other person about your associate.
If the other person knows about your associate, you can start using less-than-flattering language to describe them. For instance, you describe the specifics of a disagreement you had or bring up the apparent defects in them that you are increasingly coming to see. That doesn’t show your associate any respect or honesty.
7 You have the impression that they truly “understand” you.
This should be avoided at all costs because it is unquestionably one of the biggest signs that your affair is developing into love. Most likely, you turned to the other person because you believed you shared a problem. The affair has moved beyond the physical if you sense that they truly “understand” you, perhaps better than your partner. It’s firmly rooted in the camp’s emotional component.
8 You keep getting in touch with them.
If you spoke in the start of the affair, you probably had specific instances. You now realize that emails and SMS ping forward and backward at completely different times. The person has probably been on your mind for a long time because of this. You must speak to them even when you can’t help. This is a significant development because it indicates that feelings have become extremely intertwined.
9 You find it difficult to concentrate.
Remember how you felt when you first started to fall in love with your partner? You lost your appetite, had trouble sleeping, couldn’t stop thinking about them, and couldn’t think of anything besides the next time you can see them. If you continue to see that, it’s one of several clear signs that an affair is developing into love.
10 You start to think about the long term.
Uh-oh! Trouble is right around the corner. Your current connection is essentially useless in the sea if you start to envision a future with this person. As a result, you’re irrevocably becoming attached to the other person. You’re just about to fall in love.
Again, I’m not passing judgment, but consider this: Why are you having an affair in the first place? Now, ask yourself another question. If your partner was acting exactly like you are right now, would you be appalled and devastated? If you haven’t actually done anything with this other person yet but you’re starting to think you might, this is perhaps the best question to put to them.
You can determine whether or not anything is right if you put yourself in the other person’s shoes and ask yourself if you’d be comfortable with them doing what you’re doing.
However, if you’re calling it a “affair,” it has already started by definition. The road has been clearly crossed in this instance. You might be trying your hardest to keep emotions out of it and even ending it before any hearts are truly broken for good, but as soon as love starts to enter the picture, you’re going to face the biggest speed bump imaginable.
If you want to be with the other person or if you genuinely believe you’ve met someone you can’t live without, you should let your friend know. Undoubtedly, it will hurt them. Yes, they will be devastated, but the longer you keep it a secret from them, the worse it will probably be.
Finish it with the other person if you’re unclear of how you’re feeling or whether you and your partner still have a future. If you can, be honest and open up to your partner about what has happened. They could or they couldn’t forgive you, but they deserve to face the truth.
There are several signs that an affair is developing into love. You know you’re already in serious trouble if you start to feel the same way about the other person that you did about your partner at first. Time to return with clarity and critical thinking!